When I say ‘Baby’, what comes first in your mind? An innocent and cute looking face that melts away your heart. If you imagine more, then you might think of their smile, the way they speak their first word, their first step and many more…

Becoming a mother is an overwhelming emotion. Long before holding the baby for the first time, a mother promises herself to take care of the little one in every possible way even it means neglecting her own well-being. Is it really necessary to neglect her own physical and mental health, her social life and work life?

With child comes a great sense of responsibilities. The overwhelming feelings leads full time care of child that mothers are barely left with time for themselves. It is obvious that mother keeps juggling herself from taking care of baby to all the household chorus. By the time they wind up their day she is left with no time and no energy in taking care of herself.

If you keep trying to find out the time, it will never happen to you. You have to make time in small bits throughout the day. Otherwise you will just imagine doing your favourite stuffs without being able to make it real.

Here are few reasons why all mothers need ‘me’ time:

1. It Rejuvenates You

To replenish your soul, mind and body you need to take care of yourself. You keep moving around the house all day and multitasking without any rest. In a long run this routine is going to take toll on your health. Health problems like muscle ache, sleep deprivation, tiredness, pale face, dark circles, weak bones, hair loss and many more.

Taking a small break and doing activities that makes you happy will help improve your health and beauty.

 

2. You are More than a Mom

The person today you are, is because of all the other roles you played in your life to mold yourself. You were a woman with dream, goals, hopes, career, relationships; you were a daughter, friend, sister, wife, colleague before becoming a mother. As now you are busy in doing the incredibly important job of your life, you might have been drifted away from who you were.

Now, it is the time of self-realization where you need to wear the same shoes again. And this is achievable only when you see yourself more than a mother. So take a break, work on it and continue to pursue them.

 

3. Babies Grow up in the Blink of an Eye

Today is a very hectic day for you. You are too busy taking care of your child that you overlook your needs and individuality. But within the blink of an eye your baby is no longer a baby. You cannot run behind or accompany them for the rest of their life, they will be independent in no time. If you do not have any other interest or activities other than looking after your child, you will be left behind alone and lost.

Wake up now, cultivate healthy hobbies and interests that fulfils  just your life with happiness and mental well-being.

 

4. Re-connects with your partner

Most often we neglect the health of our marriage after the child is born, take out time to strengthen your relationship with your spouse. Utilise your me time in spending a quality with your partner go on a evening date, watch a movie together or let’s talk.

A healthy relationship between the partners is equally important for the child and the environment in which they are raised upon.

 

5. Be an Example to your Child

A happy mind cultivates great fruit. When a child is raised by a happy mother with full of dreams, hopes, goals and passion; their child gets motivated to live the life in a positive way. When you actively pursue your interests by reading a book you like, painting a canvas, singing, dancing or to learn something new because you enjoy it as a part of life, they will follow you. And you never know they may even find their interest and career out of it.

By taking time for yourself regularly teaches your children that your interests matter, you have a life outside of raising them and they need to respect that. This a valuable lesson for them too.

 

6. For Independent Mindset of Child

When you are around your child every time, they know, they are at their safest place and their needs and tantrums will be handled carefully.

What if you are not there for some time? What will they do? Will they be okay? How are they going to eat or sleep? How they will cope up with this changed environment? Will the child be playing their preferred games, or humming their special lullabies, or listening their favourite story?

Relax… Put your thoughts aside…

Your child will be as ok as you will be when taking a break. Initially it will be difficult for both of you but you have to understand the need of separation gradually. You can handover your child to a trusted relative, family member, friends or babysitter; spending time with them will help your child to adapt a different environment.

They will understand about different approach of being taken care, which will help them to grow more independent and learn things without your involvement in it.

 

7. It Makes you a Better Mom

A tree with healthy roots grows strong and bears sweet fruits. In the same way when the heart of the family i.e., mother, is healthy she can put in more energy and patience to raise a child along with other chorus.

By looking after yourself, you are taking care of your physical and mental well-being and then pour all your positive energy into your children.

Do not hesitate to borrow moments from your parenting and it is not a selfish act. You are just improving your family health by giving a bit of priority to yourself.

 

If nobody reminds you to take care of yourself, take this responsibility by your own. Every day when you wake up in the morning and look at your child, just remember your child’s happiness and health lies in you. No one is going to bless your child as you do and that blessing needs to be very strong…

It’s the time to act upon, buckle your shoes and get started….

 

How Do I Make it Happen?

Let’s Read… Smart Ways of Making time as a Mother